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        "A short-story with a promise, a problem, a paradox, a
          question… and an idea, and a radical notion or two?"

Stop the Presses!  Stop Progress?

     A Radical Notion?

It will be easy to explain this notion, but HARD to understand.

“Once, when interviewing Ed Koch . . ., I badgered him about what I thought was an inconsistency.  Finally he leaned into the table, peered at me, and said, ‘I can explain this to you; I can’t comprehend it for you.’" – Andrew Kirtzman

With that tongue-in-cheek aside, I brush back a lot of reticence about entering into this area of values. There is no winning in values, there are only values positions, and from there the reality flows into right and wrong categories.

I don’t think I have to tell you HOW difficult it is to put yourself on the line for your values. Most of us prefer to remain behind the scenes, work within our own freedoms and kabuki dance with life conditions.

So far, a pretty good deal.  We have watched the world–our world–from a pretty good seat.

We’ve run this thing all the way to the top, and then some.  It’s all been a pretty good ride.

Can it keep going?

Most likely?  NOT.

The current paradigm was constructed for a period of time in our history when the population was 1.5 billion (1900s) and oil bubbled out of the ground.  It worked well for that time, but the consequences are here now, showing us that the paradigm has reached a point of diminishing returns.

The problem?

No one wants to give up their favorite piece of the pie — I don’t either.  So it’s not about that anymore, is it?

The promise.

     Pay me now, or Pay him later?

The Fram thing… you remember that? Here’s the 30-second commercial from 1981, believe it or not!


The paradox!

More is everywhere, and so should we?

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After all, in the end it’s not what you believe that matters—it’s how you live your life.

I wondered about that last statement…

Is it really true that our beliefs don’t matter–our values don’t matter–but only how we live our lives…?

Yet, isn’t our beliefs, your beliefs right now as you read this little expose… aren’t they filtering this information, biasing how you live your life?

It might seem there is a paradox in our lives about nature and nurture, and it might seem that this paradox is intuitive to some… to even you right now.  Without thinking or feeling too much, most of what we believe to be true, is most likely our perspective constructed out of those beliefs; and the beliefs didn’t get there by magic… we constructed them–with help of course.  That is what I’m going to suggest to you is counter-intuitive.

This counter intuitive notion of how our beliefs got there and what caused them to be there are both intuitive; in that they got there through our experience.  We didn’t inherit our beliefs… or did we?  This might be counter-intuitive — against what our beliefs are that emerged through our intuitive nature, and that our beliefs are fully constructed in our experience without any inborn help, right?

For most folks, playing around with counter-intuitive stuff is just not something one wants to do.  We would rather just read on and believe when someone says: it’s not about what you believe, but how you live your life, that seems intuitive.  It fits, but actually, it’s not a fit at all.

When all of us are on the way out (as in dying), I imagine, if we are still thinking and feeling at all, we might call into question what we believed, and how believing that has led to how we lived our lives, for sure.

In this little short story, what I’m going to suggest to you now, is the paradox of looking at not just how we live our lives, but what we believe that has us living our lives the way we do.

In the paradox of the intuitive and the counter-intuitive, life happens.


How do our values help us live our lives?

I can NOT find a single system of development (which includes values) that is not focused on "escalation" and growth vertically.  I remember back in the 1980s, Stephen Covey’s admonition that "your ladder is against the wrong wall."

In every values system I’ve ever seen, values are projected as a hierarchical system; that more is better, that bigger is better, that altitude is better for us.

To have greater perspective, to engage in "bigger" ideas, to strive to become more…  Even in my last webinar, someone asked me "How do you do vertical development?" Here is a slide from one of my favorite people, Dr. Susanne Cook-Greuter, who is another person who champions vertical development of ego complexity.

It’s really an intuitive notion.  WHO can possibly disagree with that logic?

All of us have been entrained into a notion, which fits well with our intuition about how the world is… and the world is growing more complex every minute; and therefore the way, the truth and the life — to borrow a paraphrase — is to grow more complex too.

To be honest, I don’t value growth as a good thing or a bad thing, it just is.

The question.

The question is, do we have to be, do, have, become, and contribute alongside a world that has now grown exponential in its complexity with even the ‘acceleration of complexity’ nearing an exponential curve?

Look at this graphic, which shows some curves.

I’ve differentiated 6 different kinds of complexity and demonstrated how they are in relation to each other, figuratively, not literally because it can’t be measured, just contrasted.

Content complexity has already gone hockey stick (exponential curve).  Context is close to going exponential as well.  Conditions are accelerating, albeit more slowly (they behave more non-linearly and discontinuously than drawn).  Even code, or algorithms that are emerging are beginning to accelerate their growth out of linear code development.  Notice that culture and core remain in linear relationships, even as the epigenetic actors (language (content), context, and conditions) are accelerating out of linear modes?

This kind of change signals at least one thing.

Red Queen Effect. [wiki]

"The term is taken from the Red Queen’s race in Lewis Carroll’s Through the Looking-Glass and involves the Red Queen and Alice constantly running, yet remaining in the same place.

"Well, in our country," said Alice, still panting a little, "you’d generally get to somewhere else — if you run very fast for a long time, as we’ve been doing."

"A slow sort of country!" said the Queen.

"Now, here, you see,

…it takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place."

 If you want to get somewhere else, you must run at least twice as fast as that!"

The Red Queen Principle can be stated thus:

In reference to an evolutionary system, continuing adaptation is needed in order for a species to maintain its relative fitness amongst the systems being co-evolved with."

Do you see the rub here?

Can you see the paradox, and why Blank Slate — you can be anything — has to be, or so we think?

If we are created equal, and we come into the world free from filters and biases, then in order to maintain fitness, we have to run harder, because the adaptation we have to be co-evolved with is leading us to do that, right?

That is the intuitive notion and it’s makes sense!

That because we grow, we SHOULD grow.  Hence all of the intuitive systems out there, whether it be values, adult development, technology, finance, automation, advertising, or our environment; it MUST be that we have to adapt by being, doing, having, becoming, and contributing more!  Right?


It’s a paradox.

Intuition says we keep growing, adapting, changing, even if we CAN’T, we should @BS (Blank Slate). That is the psychology of the times and certainly what I have heard out of every pundit’s mouth for the 3 decades I’ve been studying these phenomena.


The idea?


Radical notion, or paradoxical, counter-intuitive values?


If you can just get this simple notion, paradoxically as it might seem, blasphemous as it might be, then you will not have an immune response @F-L-O-W.

Here’s what I mean.

What if you saw the world getting more complex at a more rapid rate… even accelerating exponentially; and you said, that is ok.  But if trying to co-evolve with that world has more risks than benefits, what might you believe?

How then would you live your life?

Your answer?

Ever thought about it?

Need to wait until you are heading home in this life to ponder such a counter-intuitive notion, or idea?

Join me for my next short story on higher is not happier? and vertical development of values may be intuitive, but it’s not for us… as individuals; and how to know the difference @F-L-O-W.

These short stories are brought to you by Mike R. Jay, the world’s most innovative coach, and self-proclaimed developmentalist.  Mike’s new book @F-L-O-W: Find, Design, Use TALENT to Emerge Happiness & Success in a Post Modern World, is available now.

In the book, Mike explains why Blank Slate, as adopted by CORPORATE, and leveraged by "propaganda" has conspired to create the life conditions we now co-evolve with–all for good reason–and that the risks and the benefits are now diminishing rapidly with the escalation of complexity.

What was a good idea for its time, has now become loaded with potential risks for mankind; buoyed by limits to growth and irrational decision-making at the highest levels of leadership; now leave you, me and us at a crossroads.

Influenced by the best selling book The Blank Slate: The Modern Denial of Human Nature, by Steven Pinker in 2002, a decade later, Mike helps us understand what to do about what has become the most dangerous memeplex of our time.

He guides you @F-L-O-W to hold an optimistic view of our individual futures based on a way to "produce happiness" and consume less success, while navigating the shallows between.

Mike cautions you about continuing our conditioned, intuitive approach to reality, and how this memeplex in play @BS will lead to accelerating losses of happiness globally, while decreasing success locally.  He gives reasons why this is occurring throughout the book.

In the book, Mike identifies 15 Primes, 12 of which are outlined in detail in this first book, and shows you the tools within each, which you apply one or more combinations directly suited to your talents to get off this RAT RACE of co-evolving with complexity, and running harder to keep up.

Mike knows that the notions in the book are counter-intuitive by nature, and that CORPORATE wants us all to dig in and hold on, as we ride the roller coaster of money and credit, in a meme-park of growth and more.

While Mike contrasts the CORPORATE Memeplex @BS, he doesn’t make it the scapegoat, because fingers pointing there, leaves more fingers pointing at US, literally and figuratively.

This book can be used by people who influence, for a living, intellectuals and leaders.  Just as they have used the 1928 Bible of PR, called PROPAGANDA, by Edward Bernays (offered free to members, btw) to propagate @BS for the public good during the 1930s to increase demand for wants, instead of needs; Mike believes the same mechanics, with a different object –happiness, not just success– can be used to disperse the dangerous components of the memeplex to decelerate complexity anxiety across the planet.

In a very practical manner, Mike demonstrates in the book, what you can do as an individual and in the collective to begin to replace the intuitive notion that growth and more are the ONLY answers to our co-evolution with complexity.

Book @F-L-O-WMike provides a very specific roadmap for each of us to use while navigating through the dissonance that will emerge both now, near, and far as complexity reigns, and life becomes so.

This is a novel approach that represents an obliquely powerful way to decelerate @BS @F-L-O-W, and allows for APPS to be constructed for this new "paradigmatic operating system."  If the book is not enough, Mike has created a platform of guidance of varying levels of experience which he and others use to guide you in your own Journey @F-L-O-W.  With more than 25 years of professional coaching experience around the world, Mike has benefited from the tens of thousands of hours with clients, students and peers and thanks them for their contributions to this seminal work.

Mike welcomes comments and ideas on his teleseminars, and all book owners get access to his free FastStart @F-L-O-W, which these short stories are a part. Welcome @F-L-O-W!

The paradox of choice.

When we look at some of the ramifications of all of the choices we can make, if we are not clear on why we make those choices, or don’t; the how really doesn’t matter, as it becomes part of the problem.

ValuSYNC™ @F-L-O-W is a system of values engineering to help us understand how our values create a fishbowl which is important for us.  However, we need to be clear on our ends values, and our means values, and what that means.

In order to get started in this process of being, having, doing, becoming, and contributing @F-L-O-W, our FastStart @F-L-O-W is suggested.  In FastStart, we link you with the book, why the book establishes a key (back)ground for the figure of ValuSYNC @F-L-O-W.

You may register for our FastStart @F-L-O-W program by purchasing the book @F-L-O-W now, or if you have already purchased a book, your ‘Schedule of Events‘ Link in your Member Area has your FastStart @F-L-O-W Event information.

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